“I deserve to be loved” VS “This is as good as it gets for me”Ĥ. “I see a glimmer of hope” VS “My situation is hopeless”ģ. “I’ll be happier alone” VS “No, I won’t be happier alone”Ģ. Some of the most common ones people tell us about are:ġ. These conflicting beliefs can be anything that’s an internal unresolved conflict for you. When you take a good look at relationship limbo, there are conflicting beliefs that won’t allow you to make a decision. Okay, so maybe our metaphor is pretty dramatic but you probably get what we mean and how living in limbo can possibly kill your relationship. The carbon monoxide fumes will choke you to death and you might not even realize it. It’s like having one foot on the gas and one on the brake at the same time while you’re sitting in your car in the garage with the door closed. The thing about being in relationship limbo is this…īeing in limbo makes that it’s impossible to have the depth of love, passion and connection that is truly possible. The challenge for someone who’s living with the question of whether to “stay or go” is not knowing whether to take a step and risk being “wrong” or whether to continue in limbo and see if your relationship rights itself and gets better. What we’ve discovered is that some people can (and do) stay stuck and live in “limbo” without truly making a decision about their relationship for years. Of course we always offer individual coaching (both in-person and by telephone ) to help people living with difficult questions and situations in their relationships but for the person who is living with the question of whether to “stay or go”… However, if you’re someone who is living with the question of whether to stay or go, we want to help you… If you’re happy in your relationship and not in this limbo, congratulations–and keep doing what you’re doing to create more of what you want. In fact, over 500 of our newsletter subscribers told us that they’re living in this “limbo” of whether to stay or go and don’t know what to do next.
These people want more love, passion and connection but are stuck in trying to figure out whether there’s any hope or not that they can have it in their current relationship.
While the two of us are all about helping couples create more love, passion, and connection in their relationship or marriage, we can’t ignore the reality that many people are living in “relationship limbo.” After the holidays, more people struggle with relationship limbo–whether to stay in their relationship or not more than any other time of year.
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